Of all the three assessments, the only difference in
how I evaluated myself and how one of the other communicators evaluated me was
in the area of verbal aggressiveness. The score I received upon completing this
assessment was 61which was moderate and stated that I maintain good balance
between respect and consideration for others’ viewpoints, and the ability to
argue fairly by attacking the facts of a position rather than the person
holding that position. One of the other communicators gave me a score of 73
which was significant and stated with little provocation, you might cross the
line from ‘argumentativeness’ which attacks a person’s position or statements,
and verbal aggression, which involves personal attacks and can be hurtful to
the listener. I can honestly say the description of “significant” sounds harsh
but I am guilty of behaving in such a manner on occasion. It’s definitely not
who I am consistently, but there have been times that I have allowed myself to
go there. Mainly, in my past relationship and the person who gave me this score
would definitely know that side of me. However, for the most part I agree that
my verbal aggressiveness is moderate. I learned that I am a better listener
than I thought I was as well as that I may need to investigate my verbal aggressiveness
a bit more in my personal life.
Towanda
ReplyDeleteI think it is really an advantage when we get an opportunity to see how other perceive us and work to change what we need to change. It sounds like the evaluators were honest in giving you great feedback. It is so important that they do give honest feedback because we cannot be sure how we are perceived unless we get honest feedback from others.
Leslie Porter
Towanda,
ReplyDeleteI was glad to read that you received some different feedback because I was expecting my co-workers to rate me differently and they rated me the same way that I rated myself within a couple of point, but in the same category on all three assessments. It has made me wonder if it has something to do with the fact that I asked people to rate me that I supervise. I am hopeful that were honest because I was seeking some constructive feedback. I hope that it has been a growing experience for you personally.
Jill
I think it is great that you are able to know that you are the type of communicator that you are. I find that I censor myself in many situations which allows me to be taken advantage of at times. It is great to be given opportunities to take assessments like this because they give you the chance to learn about yourself. I learned that I was more confident communicator than I gave myself credit for,
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